Praying for the dead is self-evident to us as Orthodox Christians. Even Monophysites, Nestorians, Roman Catholics, and Uniates continue this practice from their Orthodox Christian past. But many of our Protestant neighbors question or reject it, thinking it is not biblical. As Orthodox Christians, we should understand why we pray for the dead, so we can explain this to others who ask about it (1 Peter 3:15).
This post explains the Orthodox practice of prayer for the dead. We also explain the tradition of blessing and eating “memorial wheat” in the Orthodox Church.
Prayer for the dead is biblical
First and foremost, the Orthodox pray for the dead because the Bible tells us to. As members of the Church, the Body of Christ, we are exhorted to pray for one another (James 5:16). Whether we live or die, “we belong to the Lord” (Romans 14:8). For we are “members of His Body, of His flesh and of His bones” (Ephesians 5:30). The Church is “the heavenly Jerusalem, the city of the living God”. As such, she includes “tens of thousands of angels” and “the spirits of righteous people made perfect” as well as those of us alive on earth (Hebrews 12:22-24).
Because of Christ’s resurrection and victory over death, death does not end our membership in the Body of Christ. For neither “death nor life […] will separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord” (Romans 8:38-39). The Orthodox remember that God “is not the God of the dead, but of the living – for all are alive to Him (Luke 20:38). Therefore, we pray for both the living and for the “dead in Christ” (1 Thessalonians 4:16).
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Examples of prayer for the dead in Scripture
The most notable examples of prayer for the dead in Scripture are perhaps Judas Maccabaeus and Saint Paul the Apostle.
Judas Maccabaeus offered sacrifices and prayers for his fallen soldiers with the future resurrection of the dead in mind. As he said: “It is therefore a good and wholesome thought to pray for the dead, so they may be set loose from their sins” (2 Maccabees 12:39-46). Most Protestant Bibles don’t include this book as part of the canon. However, both the Orthodox and Roman Catholic canons use the Septuagint version of the Old Testament cited by Christ’s apostles in their writings.
Secondly, we have the Apostle Paul, who prays for his departed friend Onesiphorus. As he writes: “May the Lord grant that he find mercy from the Lord” on Judgment Day (2 Timothy 1:16-18). And so the Orthodox do likewise!
The nature of death after Christ’s victory
We can see from the verses above that we remain alive to God and part of His Church, even if we are dead to this world. Death is the parting of our souls and bodies, not the end of our existence or the obliteration of our personhood. The Bible bears witness that our souls live on after death, both conscious and active after our earthly lives (Luke 16:19-31; Revelation 6:9-10). For this reason, the Church speaks biblically of the dead as those who have “fallen asleep” (1 Corinthians 15:18; 1 Thessalonians 4:13-16), for they are destined to awake and rise on Judgment Day.
With an eye toward the resurrection of the dead and the life of the age to come, we ask God who gives life to the dead, to keep them in His eternal memory and grant them mercy, peaceful rest, forgiveness of their sins, and a good answer for themselves before the awesome judgment seat of Christ.
Fun Fact
The English word cemetery comes from the Greek word koimeterion, “a place for sleeping”, from the root word koimisis, “sleep”.
As Orthodox Christians, we have hope in Christ both in this life and in the age to come. As He tells us: “I am the One who lives, and became dead, and behold I am alive for ages and ages […] And I hold the keys of death and death’s underworld” (Revelation 1:18-19). So, the Orthodox turn to Him in prayer for both the living and the dead, as the church has always done.
Blessing of Memorial Wheat
The custom of memorial wheat is one of many examples of how Orthodox Christian worship of the Church appeals to all five sense of the human being to make us aware of God’s truth, grace, and life in our lives.
During prayer services for the dead, we bless and share memorial wheat. You may have heard it called grure (Albanian), ameh (Arabic), kollyva (Greek), or kolyvo or zhito (Serbian). Recipes for the memorial wheat vary by location and family; but each recipe has at least three basic ingredients:
- boiled whole wheat kernels
- dried fruit, and
- some sort of sweetener, like sugar or honey
The wheat kernels remind us of Christ’s words about death and resurrection: “Unless a kernel of wheat falls into the ground and dies, it remains a single seed, but if it dies it brings forth much fruit” (John 12:24). Secondly, the fruit symbolizes the risen Christ, the “first fruits” of the dead, whose resurrection brings our own (1 Corinthians 15:22-24). And the sweetener reminds us of the sweetness of the afterlife that awaits those who follow Christ, the Wisdom of God. “For wisdom is sweet to your soul; if you find it, there is future hope for you, and your hope will not be cut off (Proverbs 24:14).
When we eat our serving of wheat, we offer a brief prayer for the person being remembered: “May God forgive them.”
Conclusion
To sum up, the practice of praying for the dead is indeed biblical, and has been part of the Christian life for millennia. The Orthodox Church keeps this practice alive to this day, along with the tradition of blessing and eating memorial wheat. These things remind us of the power of Christ’s resurrection – that death is not the end for those who believe in Him.
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If there’s no purgatory, what’s the point?
Purgatory is a term Eastern Orthodoxy rejects, because the Church does not teach of a “situation change” for the soul after having departed this life. Prayers for the departed do help those who have fallen asleep, as we can see in Scripture, but how it helps them is not clear. It is not about there being a “point” to the practice or not, but rather that we know their souls are grateful for these prayers (cf. St. Mark of Ephesus). These prayers also bring great comfort to the loved ones still living and remind us of our own mortality. This is why prayers for the departed sound penitential. Not because of the existence of a place like Purgatory, but because remembrance of mortality should bring with it repentance and orientation of the soul and body toward God.
We hope this was helpful! God bless!
Thank you so much for your lesson on praying for our loved ones. I lost my son Danny on 1/23/16. And I have lost my beloved goddaughter Eleni on July 18th of this year. Both of these loved ones aged 35.
There is so much sadness but we have faith in our Lord Jesus Christ. May their memories be Eternal!
The article states that even the Apostle Paul prayed for someone who was dead: Onesiphorus. His prayer was “May the Lord grant that he find mercy from the Lord” on Judgment Day (2 Timothy 1:16-18). This would be a foolish thing for Paul to say if he didn’t think that this prayer could be answered by God. Remember that Onesiphorus was already dead when this prayer was made.
Can our Lord God show mercy towards the dead?
Why is our prayer important for the dead if the dead could no longer repent?
After we die are we going to face judgement and if so go to either heaven or hell? Or after we die we wait until the Lord come again and there Judgement comes.
Marco,
Christ is in our midst! Ultimately, the Lord can do whatever He pleases, so there will always be things we simply cannot know regarding the state of someone’s soul. We published an article about the Last Judgment and another about what happens after we pass from this life. Check them out for answers to your last questions there.
God bless!
In the Coptic Orthodox church, some sins that are done without knowing about them or we forgot about them because they were minor like yelling as an example or any hidden sins that we did not know about them when they occurred. like unintentional or a thought that passed and we did not record it as a sin. These types of sins that were just skipped from our conscious, can be forgiven we we pray for them as living for the dead at the time of funeral and after prayers for our souls that are fallen asleep in the lord.
Hello, we couldn’t really know what happens after death. However, it is written that our deceased ones are asleep after their death, they will be awake when Christ comes back. So, is it useless for us to talk (or ask them to pray for us) since they are asleep and couldn’t hear us?
Or, they’re conscious, But if so, we don’t really know which state they’re in – heavenly place or hell? So what’s the purpose of talking to them if they’re (unfortunately) suffering? Isn’t it better to keep silent and just clean the tomb?
Thank you, God bless.
Sharon,
Christ is risen! Thank you for your question. Being “asleep” versus being “awake” doesn’t place any limitations on those who have departed this life and are now in Christ. Those who have striven to obtain communion with God (which is what the Orthodox consider salvation itself to be) partake in Him after their death. Partaking in Christ means being “partakers of the divine nature” (2 Peter 1:4). A good metaphor to describe how this works: a dry paper towel need only touch a soaked sponge to become wet in the same manner as the sponge. So too it is with us and Christ after departing this earthly life. Being asleep does not limit their ability to hear anyone, for as Christ can hear us, so can those who abide in Him. We hope this helps – God bless!
Orthodox people denied that they are praying for their dead loved ones. I think you were mistaken in your article.
Ramon,
Christ is in our midst. Kindly, mistaken about what in particular? Individual Orthodox Christians denying that we pray for those who have reposed is unfortunate, as this has been the practice of the Church for millennia. God bless.