Church Etiquette 101: Children in Church

Welcome back to Church Etiquette 101! Last time, we talked about several different behaviors, some pious and others not-so-much. In this post, we discuss how parents with children should handle their little ones during services.

“Let the little children come to Me…”

In many churches, children either miss the beginning or the end of Liturgy for their Sunday School lessons. Parishes do this because children (supposedly) cannot last the entire Liturgy without getting “antsy.” Additionally, parents may show up late for liturgy on purpose, so the children need not be in church as long. But true Orthodox parents ought not to engage in behaviors like this, and request that Sunday School take place either before or after Liturgy. This way, the baptized youth in the Church can worship with the rest of us and become comfortable in their Father’s house.

Christ desires our little ones in His presence. As He says, “Let the little children come to Me, and do not forbid them; for such is the kingdom of heaven” (Matthew 9:14). As Orthodox Christians and as parents, we have a duty to our Lord to bring our children to Him and allow them to experience His love. Children must remain in the church throughout the service to learn about the Life of the Church and about the commandments of God. And it is our job to ensure they can learn unencumbered.

Etiquette for our little ones

Children need constant guidance to understand how to behave properly while in the church, during worship or otherwise. Here are some things to think about:

1. Noise

Children make noise. They coo, gurgle, babble, and talk. Sometimes they cry. If your child becomes fussy, please remove them from the temple until they have calmed. Many churches have a cry room or nursery you can use if necessary. At St. John’s, our cry room is within the nave with a window facing the altar, so parents can still participate in the Liturgy with their child while in the room.

Instead of removing the child from church, you can walk around with them in the nave and show them the church. This is a very good thing you can do with children between six to eighteen months old, and even those approaching three and four years old. So long as you do not go on or into the altar, you have absolute freedom to walk about the church with your child. Let them see, let them touch the icon and kiss it, let them encounter Christ. Remind your baptized child that Jesus lives inside her and loves her.

2. Snacks

Orthodox Christians fast from midnight on to prepare for Holy Communion. Anyone who is baptized and capable of fasting (seven years or older), should fast prior to receiving. For younger children (6-18 months), parents can bring a snack. But as the children grow older, they should be weaned from snacks and breakfast prior to Communion.

If your child does eat a snack, please kindly clean up any crumbs. Also, try not to give them snacks just before Communion.

3. Toys

Try to keep toys to an absolute minimum. If you do bring any, choose toys that won’t make noise when dropped on the floor. For example, a stuffed animal for the child to hold is fine. There are other ways you can keep the child occupied, like coloring in a biblical coloring book, walking around and showing them things in the church, or talking softly to them during Liturgy to explain what is happening.

Conclusion

While your children may resist these rules of etiquette at first, you’ll find that they eventually acquiesce. Show them how much you love being in church, and they will come to feel the same way as they live and grow in the Faith.

In our next Church Etiquette 101 post, we discuss how to properly receive blessed bread. Have any suggestions for our Church Etiquette 101 series? Let us know in the comments below!

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